I found to my surprise, that thoughts and feelings ( intellect and emtions) act in a funny way with respect to one of the issues that matters most to me, i.e. love.
Sometimes, the feeling is one generated of sorrow from memory(longing but not getting) , but the intellect tells me to go ahead anyways.
Sometimes, i feel the intense need for companionship, and the intellect intervenes otherwise, telling me to be cautious and wise in whatever i do(i.e. not really investing emotion at all).
But emotions and thoughts are always at crossroads, and it really produces a mess in the mind which is highly undesirable and self defeating beyond doubt.
How to produce clarity in such a case.
I 'll examine :
Looking at the positive possibilities alone, i intellectually see that it is possible for me to have a very healthy, deep relationship with someone if i am willing to be the best i can be.
And i really feel that such is the way to go. And i feel the need anway, so that prepares me.
Really, i feel that it is best to look at only one kind of possibility at one time and be clear within myself.
Lookin at both simultaneously really messes me up.
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hi there,
personally, i feel ur companion should b a great freind of yours
i think both intellect n emotions don't work simultaneously.
i believe that your intellect helps u in judgin if a person is right(if u can get along) 4 u in terms of same mental wavelength, mannerisms, character, values, etc..
you get emotionally involved once you spend time together.i feel that none of us can start carin 4 someone unless n until u know that person(i don't believe in love at firstsight)
n when u talk abt longing n ur intellect asks u to move on then its not true love, its mere infactuation. true love is developed over a period of time
Agree with a lot u say.
The trouble can be when u love someone and the other person doesn't.
For you, the wavelength matches and u begin to care but the other person doesn't.
Thats what the mess is all about.
but how can u be so sure that the other person doesn't love u? did she expressly tell u something like that?
if she's your friend then its easy to get close to her. all u have to do is try n become a very good friend of her. maybe later on when the time's right u can ask her out. until then dont even think abt that. be patient and be very careful don't be in a hurry. u gotta understand her. let her feel secure with u.
a li'l secret- girls really appreciate this and they would love to find a companion in a best friend
Yes i expressly know that. So thats the matter.
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